4 things to remind before deciding to divorce

If you are thinking of ending your marriage, you first need to be alert and carefully considered as this may be one of the most difficult decisions in your life. Many couples have struggled for a very long time before making a firm decision about whether to stay or leave.

If you are in the process of struggling with deciding whether to file for divorce, you can consider the following aspects that the DFC Law Firm has compiled below.

4 things to remind before deciding to divorce

1. The negative effects on your life when thinking about deciding to divorce:

Your job: Your work may be in danger or ineffective due to mood and lack of concentration.

Your other relationships: Children, friends, and other family members may feel a deteriorating in your mood such as sadness, frustration, impatience, fear, anger and insatiability. This not only directly affects the relationship, but also the mood of the people around you.

Your health: Your health will also be compromised if you sleep poorly or if you do not exercise or you are not in the mood for eating leading to skipping meals, eating too little or overeing.

2. The main reasons why it is difficult for people to decide on a divorce

For many couples, the time they have spent together greatly influences whether to decide whether to divorce or continue. In general, it is often easier to divorce and start the life of a young couple than their partner who has been together for a decade or more.

So should you continue your married life or go to divorce proceedings?

This is a question that only you yourself have the answer to. Sometimes marriages are worth saving and sometimes not. It is important that you yourself face reality rather than merely making assumptions about divorce or life after a divorce.

When making this kind of life-changing decision, realize what you're going to lose and don't count on what you can get: If the main reason you want a divorce is because you're unhappy, being single again may not make you happier.

3. Questions you need to ask yourself

• Do you feel as if you have nothing left to devote to your marriage?
• Is all the forgiveness, hope and patience in your heart over?
• Do you feel indifferent to your partner?
• Is your partner treating you badly or showing indifference?
• Are you and your partner completely lacking in intimacy? Is this not just sex, but emotional intimacy, emotional intimacy and laughter?
• Does the partner have a long history of addiction, abuse, or insymonicity?

If you've said yes to these questions, you probably won't be able to go back to your marital relationship. Feeling lethargic or becoming emotionally distant is a strong sign that your marriage is over.

4. What you need to do before making any important decisions

• Try to reduce stress in your life;
• Find yourself a stable platform so you can handle things your way;
• Plan or have backup options to help you feel more in control of your life. You may never have to use it, but it's good to have a plan anyway;
• If your physical or emotional safety depends on separating from your partner, you must prioritize that;
• You may need some time to see your marriage more clearly. Going away on your own, even on a weekend, can help you organize things. For many people, this is when something clicks inside and they know what to do;
• Seek professional help;
• If you are considering a divorce, see a professional advisor.

Be sure to meet someone who has a lot of experience in the work of couples. Sometimes, a therapist who lacks understanding of relationship interactions will help put the nail in the coffin of marriage. Better yet, you can both try distinguished counseling, a kind of counseling that focuses only on helping couples decide whether they want to end their relationship or keep doing it.

If you decide to divorce, treat yourself well. Remember that if your marriage fails does not mean that you are the one who fails. And sometimes we don't need to keep trying to solve something that is no longer meaningful or un solveable. Sincerely!!!

Ls. Le Minh Cong